We often get so wrapped up in our day to day lives that we convince ourselves that we don’t have the time to make personal development a priority (interpersonal skills). Work pressures, family commitments and social engagements seem to fill our calendars 24/7 but if you make investing in yourself a habit you will quickly see the positive effect this will have on every aspect of your life. We all want to do better at work or feel like we are the best partners, parent or friend that we can be. What if all of this was just as simple as stopping for a second and looking at how you relate to others?
The Importance Of Interpersonal Skills
There are so many benefits to improving your interpersonal skills that are both personal and professional. How you relate to others effects absolutely everything in both your social and your work life. Communication is at the very heart of how you relate to others but we don’t often spend much time thinking about how important this skill is or how we can improve it.
Often just the very act of taking some time out to do something for ourselves that we truly enjoy is enough to improve our interpersonal skills. When you do something you enjoy it releases feel-good chemicals in your brains such as serotonin and oxytocin. When you are relaxed and happy, the knock-on effect is that you are naturally calmer and able to see everything else much more clearly.
Making Yourself A Priority Isn’t Selfish
Claiming back some of your precious time isn’t selfish, it’s quite the opposite. Your relationships with your family, friends and colleagues will reap the rewards of your personal investment in you. It’s much better to take an hour out of your schedule each week to dedicate that time purely to yourself, rather than agree to a jam-packed itinerary designed to please other people.
There’s a difference between just showing up and being present and whether or not you feel like you have to be in a certain situation or whether you want to be there will certainly shine through to the other people involved. Having a set amount of time that is purely yours and yours alone each week will give you space and freedom you need to allow yourself to be present in all other aspects of your life.
Be Strict With Your Time
It might seem counter-productive to add something else to your already over-subscribed schedule but don’t underestimate the positive effect time-out can have on the rest of your life. Dedicating a portion of your time to spend on yourself each week will make your relationships stronger, your focus clearer and your happiness levels at an all-time high.
If you really want to maximise your life potential making yourself a priority is a must. Your instincts may tell you that it is selfish to put yourself first but other people in your life will really benefit from a more balanced, well-rounded you.
The Benefits Of Putting Yourself First
Don’t put off putting yourself first, schedule some time for yourself and stick to it no matter what. When you claim some me a time you allow yourself to switch off from the demands of everyday life. Responsibilities can be exhausting, especially in today’s social media obsessed world which forces us to compare our lives to others.
Looking after yourself is not only one of the best way to improve mental health, it’s also the best way to improve every single relationship in your life. Taking some time out will make you calmer, more relaxed and more able to focus on the things and the people that really matter in your life.
Give Yourself Permission To Say No
Remember it’s ok to say no from time to time. It’s easy to get into the habit of being a people pleaser who says yes to every single thing but you are really doing yourself a disservice if you don’t carve out some time for yourself that is yours no matter what else comes along.
Think of it as putting your own oxygen mask on before you help those around you. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup and sometimes in order to lead a fulfilled, balanced and happy life you need to look at number one first.
What Does Investing In Yourself Look Like For You?
Everybody’s idea of investing in them will look very, very different. However, the desired outcome will remain the same. When you forget about all of life’s other demands for a second, you can really focus on what you want to do. You can read, write, paint or take up some other hobby that you’ve always wanted to try.
People often see these things as a frivolous waste of time. However, you never know where individual pursuits will lead or what opportunities they are going to open up for you. Therefore, interpersonal skills should be a priority.