To be sincere, we all admire people who are confident and bold enough to speak wherever they find themselves. However, nobody will like a person who lacks self-confident as a representative or who do you? Then why can’t you see that state of yours been shy as a challenge you must overcome? As posted in one of motivational posts titled ‘See yourself as your problem’, never think this feeling cannot be overcome. A shy being will surely be denied of many important things he or she should have gotten. You lack boldness then you will be forced to accept decisions you should have rejected and you will eventually subject yourself to fear.
However, I don’t think there is any life problem in this without its solution. Are you ready to overcome this ugly feeling called shyness? If yes, then these are the seven (7) effective ways to overcome this ugly challenge.
1- KNOW THE SOURCE OF YOUR SHYNESS:
In order to solve any problem you are facing you must firstly try to know source or root of such problem. How to know the source of your shyness? Ask yourself this simple question. Why do I get shy when I am to display my self-confidence ability. Try to know the cause of your shyness and which situation brings that ugly feeling.
2- ACCEPT YOUR SHYNESS AND ENJOY IT:
Are you wondering that how will you accept and even enjoy such unwanted feelings? Yes, the first thing is to embrace your shyness, welcome it and accept it as part of you which needs to be addressed. The welcoming shows an intention and readiness to overcome it. Tell yourself I know am a shy person, I accept it and I must overcome this. Your mentality after embracing the shyness will surely change.
3- PINPOINT WHEN YOU FEEL SHY:
Try to figure exactly when you feel shy. Is it when you are called upon to face a congregation or masses of audience? Is it when you face new faces or you feel shy when you face persons you admire? When learning a new skill? When venturing into a new situation? If you can pinpoint the moment or situation that forces to that ugly feeling then understand what exactly comes first to your head when you face new faces or admire ones before the shyness enters in.
4- PUT YOUR ATTENTION ON THE AUDIENCE:
The ugly feeling called shyness keeps telling you whenever you face the audience that, do not speak up or do not be bold because if you do so your audiences will embarrass you. No, do not listen to it. When you face people to talk to them place your attention on your audience. Stay focus and keep calm, in doing these your worries and fear to face your audience or admire will blow away.
5- YOU HAVE TO DEVELOP A GOOD POSTURE:
You have to develop a good position you hold your body when standing before anybody or people you want to address. This attitude of posturing sends an impression to your audience or people you are talking to and indirectly boost your level of confidence.
6- SELF-SPEAKING PRACTICE:
This is a self-made way to develop your skills of facing the audience. This self-speaking improves you a lot to avoid any potential embarrassment in the cause of you stammering or bubbling in front of the audience. I could remember someone told me why are you shy? Ok, when you reach home, get yourself a big mirror you at the mirror keep on practising then you will get better. Well, the approach worked prettily good for me, you can also try it. Moreover you also can record your voice and be listening to it to know how you voice tremble, sound and ring when the listening to the recording.
7- DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS:
Examining other people to see how they are similar or different to you might make you feel intimidated. Though, comparison is good to gear you up but do it for the sake of improvement or else it will compound things for you and even makes your level of shyness more complex.