DO YOU FEEL SHY? Top Seven (7) Effective Ways To Overcome Shyness

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    Shyness as defined it is a state of being embarrassed about meeting and speaking to other people. Shyness is a state of lack of confidence, low self-esteem and sometimes inferiority complex. Some people experience this timid feeling may be as a result of above-stated reasons or other factors unknown to them. It is really an embarrassment to get easily frightened and not willing to meet or come near people.

     

    To be sincere, we all admire people who are confident and bold enough to speak wherever they find themselves. However, nobody will like a person who lacks self-confident as a representative or who do you? Then why can’t you see that state of yours been shy as a challenge you must overcome? As posted in one of motivational posts titled ‘See yourself as your problem’, never think this feeling cannot be overcome. A shy being will surely be denied of many important things he or she should have gotten. You lack boldness then you will be forced to accept decisions you should have rejected and you will eventually subject yourself to fear.

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    However, I don’t think there is any life problem in this without its solution. Are you ready to overcome this ugly feeling called shyness? If yes, then these are the seven (7) effective ways to overcome this ugly challenge.

    1- KNOW THE SOURCE OF YOUR SHYNESS:

    In order to solve any problem you are facing you must firstly try to know source or root of such problem. How to know the source of your shyness? Ask yourself this simple question. Why do I get shy when I am to display my self-confidence ability. Try to know the cause of your shyness and which situation brings that ugly feeling.

    2- ACCEPT YOUR SHYNESS AND ENJOY IT:

    Are you wondering that how will you accept and even enjoy such unwanted feelings? Yes, the first thing is to embrace your shyness, welcome it and accept it as part of you which needs to be addressed. The welcoming shows an intention and readiness to overcome it. Tell yourself I know am a shy person, I accept it and I must overcome this. Your mentality after embracing the shyness will surely change.

    3- PINPOINT WHEN YOU FEEL SHY:
    Try to figure exactly when you feel shy. Is it when you are called upon to face a congregation or masses of audience? Is it when you face new faces or you feel shy when you face persons you admire? When learning a new skill? When venturing into a new situation? If you can pinpoint the moment or situation that forces to that ugly feeling then understand what exactly comes first to your head when you face new faces or admire ones before the shyness enters in.

    4- PUT YOUR ATTENTION ON THE AUDIENCE:

    The ugly feeling called shyness keeps telling you whenever you face the audience that, do not speak up or do not be bold because if you do so your audiences will embarrass you. No, do not listen to it. When you face people to talk to them place your attention on your audience. Stay focus and keep calm, in doing these your worries and fear to face your audience or admire will blow away.

    5- YOU HAVE TO DEVELOP A GOOD POSTURE:

    You have to develop a good position you hold your body when standing before anybody or people you want to address. This attitude of posturing sends an impression to your audience or people you are talking to and indirectly boost your level of confidence.

    6- SELF-SPEAKING PRACTICE:

    This is a self-made way to develop your skills of facing the audience. This self-speaking improves you a lot to avoid any potential embarrassment in the cause of you stammering or bubbling in front of the audience. I could remember someone told me why are you shy? Ok, when you reach home, get yourself a big mirror you at the mirror keep on practising then you will get better. Well, the approach worked prettily good for me, you can also try it. Moreover you also can record your voice and be listening to it to know how you voice tremble, sound and ring when the listening to the recording.

    7- DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS:

    Examining other people to see how they are similar or different to you might make you feel intimidated. Though, comparison is good to gear you up but do it for the sake of improvement or else it will compound things for you and even makes your level of shyness more complex.

     

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    76 COMMENTS

      • Being a shy person is not the problem. The problem is not willing to change that ugly attitude. It is a pleasure having you on SABTrends Blog The Ordinary Girl. Thanks for visiting SABTrends and I also appreciate your contribution.

    1. I need to work on my shyness. A lot of it has dissipated as I grew older but there's still some work to do. I think some of it is because of upbringing. So I try not to label my kid as being 'shy' and just say he's a 'happy boy.' 🙂

      • Since you know the root of your problem then you have the solution already.

        Welcome Gigi M. You made a very good point. Thanks for visiting SABTrends and I also appreciate your contribution.

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    2. I admit that I once was a very shy student and struggled hard to overcome shyness. Being constantly with a good support system such as family or your circle of friends will boost self esteem and help a lot.

    3. I remember when I was small, I used to be a shy kid. But my parents encouraged me and let me take the stage whenever I can. Now, I enjoy speaking in public. It's as if I'm just sharing things and information I would share with friends, but in a larger setting.

    4. Really, self-confident must instilled to the new generation to oversome shyness. It can be taught at school at the age of 8 up to 15 years old wherein, constant training and actual development. Your tips are good for adult to encourage themselves to combat shyness. Actually, it can be learned for our daily conversation.

    5. I am a very shy person who would rather keep to myself. I express myself better in writing than speaking. However because of my service work, I have to bring myself to speaking with different kinds of people everyday.

    6. i'm introverted but i'm not shy. i can talk to people if i see the need arises, but it is mentally draining for me and if i have the choice i would prefer to stick to myself. i think shyness is a problem that stems from really deep within people psychologically and overcoming it might need a lot more effort.

    7. I have always been a shy type. People's first impression of me is that I'm shy. One time, I seldomly talked that I only spoke around 20 words the whole semester. But I conquered my shyness now. People said that I have changed, that I am more confident. Joining school organizations help boost self-esteem.

    8. I think it's important to be confident with oneself. You should know your strength and weak points so you'll be able to adjust and be more comfortable.

    9. Everyone normally feels shy when they meet new people or have to do something for the first time. I really think these steps can help, but also, these can be used if you want to boost your self-confidence as well.

    10. When I was in grade school I was extremely shy but during my highschool, it all changed. I agree never compare you to others

    11. I am quite a timid type of person and I certainly agree with all the key points you have shared here. Nice pointers and I am sure this will definitely help those who have been struggling to fight shyness. 😀

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    12. Great list. I just always try to remind myself that everyone is the same – they feel the same way as I do in some situations and no one is better than anyone else.

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    13. I was terribly shy as a child but have got much better as I've got older. It still catches me in large groups and posture and focusing on the audience both help.

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    14. Quite an informative article. I always have a problem if the audience is too large and consist of people who know me. Learnt something today.

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    15. These are great ways to overcome your shyness. It's normal to feel shy, but it could get in the way of you reaching your goals. There are times wherein I condition my mind to see it as a challenge so that I will feel compelled to overcome it!

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    16. I used to be a master of concealing shyness and was considered an extremely self-confident speaker, extrovert. It still doesn't overwhelms me, but I started to enjoy it, as you said. I don't look at it as weakness, more like something that makes me look kinda cute. Marta Nightingale

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    17. The thing is I am not shy as such but I do feel awkward and a little out of place when there is too many people around me, especially when they are not friendly. Sometimes I go the other way and become excessively exuberant.

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    18. Ah , I really have to jot these down.. I am an introvert and a loner and yeah, i am as shy as hell…. I don't know but I grew up having such behavior and I tend not to join other groups.. I hope at the age of 27, it is not too late for me to change.. thanks for these tips!

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    19. I am not a shy person but sometimes I find it so difficult to start a conversation when I'm around a lot of extroverted people and feel I should be that way too.

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    20. It's also recognizing shy people and trying to make them feel comfortable. There have been many times where amazing people have spark conversation for me and I've felt immediately at ease to continue the conversation. Great Tips!

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    21. This is a very cool post. Sometimes I get hit by a shy moment and I don't know why. Next time it happens, I will examine with the help of your tips.

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    22. Wow! As a shy person I know what it means to be shy, you're almost off your feet when called to a podium. Well, let me start practising, maybe my shyness will leave. Also, a must share. Kudos bro

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    23. To start with, can we however not call "shyness" a problem. Definitely not a problem. You don't want to face EVERYTHING with bold steps to prove to the world that you are capable you know. I personally introduce the "shy strategy" to get a lot of things done in my life.

      Meanwhile, addressing the issue of shyness is attributed to determination. I overcame mine with a belief that "whatever happens, I will still be alive". No matter the situation, no one would spank me IF I do this or step on that crowdy stage. It works for me

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